“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.”
“Hi, do you wanna be my friend?”
Remember those good old days in grade one when it seemed so easy to make friends? All you had to do was share a few coloured pencils here and there, have the same pencil case as someone else, sit next to each other in class or just simply ask.
But now that we’re older, making friends seems to be a much harder task. It can be really quite scary trying to strike up a conversation with someone you don’t know, let alone asking them to be your friend. Sometimes we feel we have to prove ourselves – show others how cool we are. We feel we have to be popular, or smart, or good at sports in order to prove ourselves worthy of friendship. We feel we need to somehow persuade others to be our friend. It can get pretty discouraging and lonely sometimes. But do you want know a secret? You’re not alone! Believe it or not there are girls just like you, in your school, church or neighbourhood, also searching for friendship.
So what are some ways we can go about making new friends?
Here are a few friend-making tips:
Be yourself! Don’t try to pretend to be anyone else. People should love you for who you are, not who you pretend to be.
Get involved in a local club or group (e.g. youth group, local basketball club, school choir etc.) It’s easier to make friends with people who share your interests.
Next time you’re looking for a place to sit at lunchtime, see if you can find anyone sitting by themselves – then go and sit with them.
Don’t be afraid to say ‘hello.’ Many a great friendship has begun with that one simple word.
Don’t just wait for people to come to you. Be bold! Try going up to someone you don’t know (yet!) and introducing yourself.
Pray about it! Ask God to give you opportunities to make new friends.